How to Make Friends as an Adult!
Hey Gal! Happy Monday!
Latley we've received loads of texts, DMs and emails letting us know how so and so has met her friends through TBB…which is SO FUN to read!
I remember the feeling of loneliness prior to starting TBB. Even when we have a tribe, we can be at different phases of life which can also feel isolating. Today is all about practical tips for making friends as an adult!
1. Be Intentional
As an adult, friendships don't happen as effortlessly as they might have in your teens or early twenties. You're maybe not in school or constantly meeting new people in casual settings. So, you have to be intentional about creating opportunities to meet others. Look for ways to insert yourself into environments where friendship naturally flourishes—think fitness classes, book clubs, volunteering, or attending TBB events.
Tip: Don't wait for people to approach you. Take the initiative by introducing yourself, asking someone out for coffee, or following up after meeting someone new. It may feel uncomfortable at first, but putting yourself out there is the first step toward building deeper relationships.
2. Join Communities with Shared Interests
Common interests are a great way to connect with like-minded people. Whether it's a hobby you already love or something you've always wanted to try, joining a group based on shared activities gives you an instant conversation starter and something to bond over. Plus, when you're doing something you enjoy, it's easier to relax and be yourself.
Tip: Look into local community groups, fitness studios, or professional organizations. There are also plenty of online platforms where you can find in-person meetups—whether that's hiking groups, photography clubs, or wine tastings.
3. Be Open! Be Real!
One key to forming deep friendships is being open. You can only get so far with surface-level conversations. It's important to allow yourself to share a bit more of your real self, even if it feels uncomfortable at first. The strongest friendships come from sharing your experiences, thoughts, and feelings with someone who listens and understands.
Tip: Start by sharing something personal about yourself—maybe an experience you've had recently or how you're feeling about a particular situation. It invites the other person to do the same and deepens the connection beyond small talk.
4. Follow Up
We've all been there—you meet someone you vibe with at an event or a gathering, but then life gets in the way and you never follow up. Building friendships takes effort, and that means reaching out after the initial meeting to suggest a hangout or even just check in.
Tip: After meeting someone new, set a reminder to follow up with them within a week. Suggest a casual coffee, a walk, or invite them to another event you're attending. Regular touchpoints help a connection grow stronger.
5. Make Time for Friendships
Let's be real—life is busy, and maintaining friendships as an adult can easily get pushed to the back burner. But true friendships require time and effort. Making time for your friendships, even in small ways, can lead to stronger and more rewarding connections.
Tip: Schedule regular catch-ups, whether it's a monthly dinner, a weekly phone call, or even a short walk together. Treat it like you would any other priority in your life, and don't wait until you “have time”—make time.
